Never based on your life's decisions on advice from people. Who doesn't have to deal with the results? They left after giving the advice. But you have to face the consequences of the results. So whenever we need to make decisions in life. It should never be taken based on the advice given by somebody else. And definitely not of those people. who will not be walking along that path with you? When we listen to it, we feel it is not possible. Because taking advice is obvious. Throughout this life, we have taken advice from parents, friends, Saints, elders, From people around us and from teachers. Taking advice is a good thing. It is necessary also because our elders have experience.
There are some boards put up on certain roads. If you keep asking and getting directions. Then you will reach the destination quickly. It means otherwise we will take the wrong route and keep looking for the destination. And in this quotation, it says the people who don't know the route and won't be with you until the end. It is not that I don't know the route.
Whoever has to walk along the path He should be the one choosing the path. You are the one who should work on that path, I don't need to walk on it. That situation is yours and you need to face it. So who needs to make decisions? You should decide. Why? This is very important. Today the decision-making ability of most of us has become very weak. We fear making decisions. The reason is that situations have become uncertain. As the uncertainty increases. There will be an element of fear while deciding. Because I have no idea how the outcome of my decision will turn out. Because times are uncertain. When there was a certainty, it was easier to make decisions. It was simple as - If I take this decision, this will be the outcome. Or if I take that decision, that will be the outcome. We would even take huge risks earlier. Yes, but now the uncertainty is increased. Now it is not necessary that whatever I think before taking a decision. The outcome will be according to my thoughts. This is uncertainty. Now how we should understand this.
A lot of people share their problems with Friends And they want them to tell them what they need to do in that situation. And they will say it also directly "Please tell me what I should do." For example, somebody shares that her relationship with her husband is not good. And explains the situations at home - that sometimes there is physical abuse, that there have been conflicts from the beginning, and are now increasing. They share all their problems in detail And the last line will be "Do you feel I should stay with him or go for separation?" Now they want an answer. They may also expect the answer to be as per their own liking. They want an answer. Suppose I go to a doctor And ask. if alcohol is good or bad for me. Then I will wait for him to say that it is okay to be consumed in small quantities. That is one case where we want to hear the answer that we have in mind. So that the answer gets reconfirmed and becomes easier for me to go ahead with the decision.
But the other cases that I am just not able to decide what is right. I cannot make a decision. Initially, I take one decision but a few minutes later my mind says the other option will be better. For example, a career of jobs, whether to start a business or take up a job. If I should start a business, with whom should I do it? Shall I start with this business? In relationships - my child wants to marry this person. But my husband is not agreeing. Should I support my son or my husband? So people are having to make many such decisions Because of which we get confused over a period of time.
Asking for advice and asking for decisions are two completely different things. Even the one giving them should be very clear about it. Whether he is giving advice or a decision. He needs to be clear. But today we have the nature that we should control people and feel powerful. So we start feeling very powerful when somebody is asking us for such a big decision in their life. But we have to be very careful. We should never give a decision to anybody. Why should we not decide for them? Like how this line beautifully says They are the ones who should walk that path. Even if your decision is accurate, it is accurate for you. You will take that decision based on your capacity, your determination, and your willpower. The better person will actually have to walk that path. His capacity, determination, and willpower are different. So even your accurate decision - can be accurate for you. It is not accurate for that person. We should understand the thin line. Our advice will be right, not that it will be wrong. It is very deep but we should understand it. It is like saying - Go run 1 km and come. Or if you ask me to walk 1 km and come back. It is very accurate. It is good for health. If I can walk 1 km and come back it will be very useful for me. So you gave me your decision to walk 1 km and come back. This decision is very right considering your perspective and your physical capacity. But my potential, my capacity, and my health are not giving me permission to even walk 100 meters. My body has no strength right now. But if I take your decision and start walking I will collapse.
First of all, taking such decisions needs a lot of willpower. Secondly, you should not let all the public opinion which will come in, to affect you. The third point - you may not get work for a year. But you should not let it hamper your enthusiasm. You know you will get it soon. It means you have the willpower, and self respect that you will not get affected by what other people said. Thirdly, you had enthusiasm, confidence, and motivation.
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